Feed The Need

I doubt that I am alone in going through life coping with unexpected situations for which I was unprepared and which brought on growling stomach. The longer I live, the more experience I have from which to draw, but there is always the unexpected. Bookshelves are full of volumes that are advertised as solving all of your problems. Yet, for me, most have not lived up to their billing-until recently. Keeping with the truth requires that I say that I know the author, a former student, and I was predisposed to be positive about FEED THE NEED by Bridget Cooper before I read it. However, the book stands on its own writing style and content.

“FEED THE NEED is the escape guide you’ve been praying for. If you are sick and tired of feeling sick and tired; if you’re overwhelmed, resentful and afraid; if you can’t remember who you are or what you want separate and apart from other people; if you are ready to run away from home, quit your job, join a quiet little abby or monastery, hold on, Dr.Bridget Cooper is here. She’s going to bust you out of your corral. She’s going to show you how to take control of your personal and professional life, one fence post at a time.” p. iv.

“Because here’s the truth of the matter: you don’t have endless tomorrows. You only live once. At least in this form and fashion. If your worldview is hindering you and limiting your happiness and satisfaction, why not adjust it. Isn’t it worth a shot? It’s as simple as looking for information that confirms a more positive option. It’s like the saying that the pessimists are right more often, they’re just less happy in the process. Have you ever met someone who can take any situation and make themselves the victim in it, powerless to do anything? It’s true that bad things happen and we are often on the receiving end of some pretty big headaches, but that doesn’t mean we have to filter everything through a victim lens. When we do, we attract more of the same” p. 15

There are seven chapters dealing with situations all of us experience. The author does not have quick fixes. Rather, she deals with the complexity of feeling inadequate or irritated or any of the other emotions that grip us when faced with the unexpected. How do you screw yourself up to forgive? What can you do when you realize you have misunderstood? The book is more than a long list of “how to” and “how not to”. Her situations all fit into a pattern which requires that you sort yourself out while sorting your way through unfamiliar situations.

The book gets you right down to you. In each chapter I was led to look at myself and think about how much my own self absorption and lack of knowledge and understanding created some of the problems in which I have found myself.

(Oh yes, the book can be found at Amazon.)

  1. #1 by Terry Jackson on July 15, 2015 - 1:33 pm

    Thanks for this recommendation…sounds like something from which many of us could benefit – especially me!! Delightful to see you in June, Dr. Boswell. Thanks for coming out for lunch! Faithfully, Terry

    • #2 by John Boswell on July 17, 2015 - 2:31 pm

      Terry, thank you. I wish I could still teach. I enjoy your (adult students) so much.

  2. #3 by Terry Jackson on July 21, 2015 - 7:32 pm

    I know you know that there are MANY ways to teach. Your blog is just a different way for you to be who you are at the core of your being – a very kind, skilled, gifted, natural born TEACHER.

    • #4 by John Boswell on July 22, 2015 - 2:37 pm

      Terry, once again, thank you!

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